1. They don’t support you
We all make terrible decisions sometimes, but that doesn’t mean your friends should stop supporting you through them – especially if you know it was wrong. Whether that means cheating on a partner, making a bad move at work or slagging off one of your mutual friends, a real friend will support you and help you through it, not turn their back on you.
2. They don’t make an effort with your new partner
Difference in personalities happen and it’s not uncommon for your friends not to get on with your S/O for whatever reason – but if they actually valued your friendship, they should at least try.
3. They tease you about your insecurities
We all have insecurities (or if you don’t? YOU GO GIRL) and tend to take the piss out of them as a defence mechanism, but that does NOT give your friends the right to tease you about things you’re not comfortable with. A joke is a joke, playing on your sensitive side is not.
4. Your parents don’t like them
Real talk: if you mum doesn’t like them, you probably shouldn’t either. What was it that Justin Bieber sang? Because he might not be a boy of much sense (most of the time, anyway), but he’s got it spot on there.
5. They’re not good at admitting when they’re wrong
We can all be stubborn and sometimes struggle to admit we’re wrong, but that doesn’t mean you should allow someone to put you down all the time – especially if they are obviously and morally in the wrong. Always be suspicious of someone who can’t apologise for their mistakes.
6. They make your other friends feel inadequate
If you’ve got friends in one group that make your friends in another group (whether school, uni, work etc etc) feel bad because they ‘don’t know you as well’ or ‘don’t see you as much’, this isn’t OK. They’re all your friends, so the chances are they’d get on well if they gave your other mates a chance.
7. They don’t respect your house
Mates that treat your house like their own is fine, providing they contribute to the endless pieces of toast they eat and actually tidy up the mess they inevitably create. If not? Get rid, yo.
8. They’re rude about things you like
It’s normal to have different tastes from your friends and to like different things, but that doesn’t mean to say they can openly and actively slag off the things you care about – especially considering they should be the ones with your best interests at heart.
9. They’re aggressively competitive
And in turn make you feel weirdly embarrassed about sharing your achievements, namely because they always try to get one up on you and make you feel like you achieved little in comparison to them. This is probably not the case.
10. They tell people things about you that they shouldn’t
If you tell them something in confidence or share your secrets with them, only for them to tell their boyfriend because “they tell each other everything”, that is not OK. A friendship has just as intricate
11. They make plans without you
They see other mutual friends behind your back and try to keep it a secret – only to accidentally let it slip and pretend to feel guilty about not inviting you. It’s a no from us.
12. They bring drama into your life
They’re the one that always cause beef at a birthday party, get too drunk on the night out or accidentally-on-purpose end up matching with someone’s boyfriend on Tinder. If there’s something causing agg in your friendship group, you can rest assured they’re at the middle of it all.
13. They cancel plans with you last minute
With no real rhyme or reason, they flake out on you at the last minute to make you feel inadequate or like they’re more important than you. Sometimes this might be great but most of the time? It’s not.
14. They don’t make you happy anymore
Friends should be for fun times, having a laugh and emotionally support – so if they’re not offering any of those things – even if they once did – then it’s probably time to get rid and make some new friends. A happy past doesn’t necessarily equal a great future, so don’t be afraid to wave goodbye if the negatives start to outweigh the positives.