It’s over. Before you take to Facebook to let the world know of your newfound singledom, remember these simple rules about what not to post online following a breakup.
1. Facebook is not your diary. Just because you’re on an emotional roller coaster doesn’t mean that those ups and downs should be available for public consumption. Journal in private. Cry with close friends. Just stay away from your computer when you’re tempted to chronicle every stage of the breakup.
2. Don’t post soppy breakup songs. Put them on your iPod and go for a jog instead.
3. Avoid denial. Take down that profile pic with you as a couple. Don’t post a message on his wall as if you’re still friends. Remove your relationship status (with as little fanfare as possible).
4. Resist the Facebook rebound. Don’t post photos of you with cute members of the opposite sex. Don’t message other exes or cute single “friends” out of discomfort for your new singleness. If you catch yourself posting anything that you hope will make your ex jealous, don’t do it. It’s a transparent move that will only make you look bad.
5. Don’t post cryptic notes about your ex or your emotional state. In fact, as a general note, don’t post cryptic notes on Facebook ever. If you don’t want people to know why you’re sad, don’t insinuate that you’re blue.
6. Don’t get friends involved. Don’t comment on wall posts by any of his/her friends. Don’t force mutual friends to defriend him in order to stay in your good books. If you have to hide statuses for a time, do so.
7. Don’t betray your ex’s trust. Keep it classy. Repeat this motto: No slander, no revenge posts — ever. There’s just no point.
8. Don’t try to convince him to return, or publicly beg for forgiveness. If the two of you need to talk, do so in person.
9. Don’t use statuses and photos to announce that you’re having the best or worst time ever. Don’t try to make your ex miserable. (Nor should you be assuming that she/he’s reading your Facebook wall. You shouldn’t be reading his/hers either!)
10. Never admit to Facebook stalking. Even if you find yourself checking out his Facebook page, never comment that you’ve been there. Better yet, don’t check his page. You won’t gain anything from it. Don’t write a status about the picture he just posted or the life he’s leading without you.
Things will get easier. Just give it time….