You spend a lot of time at your job. Maybe most of your waking hours. Ideally, your boss and co-workers become your friends, which is nice. But be careful! Never forget that you can’t totally let your hair down with work friends the way you might with family, old schoolmates, your book group, or your cat/dog.
Why? For one thing, the workplace is a public place and public rules of decorum prevail. For another, a lot of subjects–even ones commonly discussed or ones you see referred to on TV–can turn around and reflect badly on you. They can besmirch your reputation or damage your chances of promotion. Sometimes they can get you fired. At the very least they can cause co-workers to avoid or dislike you.
There are some conversations that don’t belong in the workplace. Topics to avoid include those that could become gossip for the office grapevine and personal information that might negatively influence the perceptions others have about your ability to do your job effectively. You should also avoid lengthy discussions about controversial subjects. Staying away from discussing the following topics will make your work life a lot easier.
Religion: You shouldn’t discuss your religious beliefs or your thoughts about other religious beliefs at work. Religion is a very personal issue and people are very sensitive about it. They don’t want to hear that you disagree with their religious beliefs or that you believe your religion is the one in which everyone should believe.
Politics: This is another sensitive issue, particularly around election time. While you may feel very strongly about your political party or candidate, or have negative views about the opposition, you should not try to win your co-workers over to your point of view.
Your Sex Life: Why shouldn’t you talk about your sex life? Simply because it’s no one’s business other than yours and your partner’s. Other than that, it makes people uncomfortable. Taken to the extreme, it may even border on sexual harassment.
Problems With Your Spouse, Your Children, or Your Parents: When you discuss problems you are having with others, your co-workers and your boss may wonder if those problems are distracting you from doing your job. Talking about your problems with your family will reveal your weaknesses. You don’t want to do this, especially if you are in a position of authority.
Your Career Aspirations: Talking about how you want to move on to something bigger and better will certainly, for good reason, make your boss and co-workers question your loyalty to your current job. If you are interested in moving up within your current organization, your actions will speak louder than words. Do your job exceptionally well, and of course, let your boss know you want to move up, but don’t make it the topic of workplace conversations with anyone who will listen.
Your Health Problems: Don’t dwell on your health problems at work. If you do, you will give your co-workers and boss reason to wonder if an illness will keep you from doing your job. Of course, serious health issues that will cause you to take time off, must be discussed with your employer. No one, however, needs specific details about your health.
Have a great day ♥